Some people's attitude about depression annoys me. I mean, really annoys me.
So, let's talk depression:
Depression isn’t just something you get just because you have gone through some hard times. Depression isn’t something that goes away by simply ‘getting over it’. Depression is a real issue. In fact, it’s a medical issue.
A lot of people hide their depression because of their family and friends. Most people can’t deal with pain. One person’s pain makes another person uncomfortable.
As a result, many loved ones just don’t want you to mention your pain at all. Many people make you feel guilty or as a ‘problem’ if you mention what you’re going through. They don’t want to hear that you have depression. They make you feel as if it were your fault.
So, they give you ‘quick fixes'. “Just do this and it'll turn out like that”, or “you're the source of your problem. If you just change, then your circumstance will change.”
Wow! Just look at all the PhD degrees floating around (cynically speaking)!
As a result, people strive to fit the request of others when they go out. Take the attached picture for example. People think that just because you are ‘made up’ and ‘look good’ that you are ok. What they don’t know is that people with depression are making themselves look good for the outside. Inside they are totally dying.
If you don’t know how to help, then, by all means, don’t add to their pain.
Don’t make people feel that they can just ‘snap out of it’.
Don’t make people feel horrible when they cry out for help. Maybe you didn’t realize that they already feel horrible by just dealing with what they are going through. They don’t need you to make it worse.
If you don’t know how to help, then, of course, nothing is stopping you from praying.
Who can I talk to about depression?
If you need help, please keep these resources in mind:
National Depression Hotline: 1- 877.235.5671
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline: 1-800-662-4357
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
National Hopeline Network: 1-800-442-4673
Veterans Crisis Line: 1-800-273-8255
To contact a depression hotline geared toward young people, consider reaching out to:
Trevor Project Lifeline: 1-866-488-7386
Child Help USA Hotline: 1-800-422-4453
Boys and Girls Town National Hotline: 1-800-448-3000
There's no need to suffer in silence. Talk about your depression.