Resentment – Part 2 – Inability to handle frustration.
Domestic violence, sadly, will continue to be around for a while.
Another warning sign of domestic violence is this:
If he/she blows up and explodes at small things, and reacts with a tantrum over minor things, he may act out frustration with violence in a marriage. How he deals with anger is the key.
Some people may not necessarily ‘blow up’ and explode. Some people will sulk, pout, play the blame game, and/or make casual cruel underhanded remarks toward their love-interest. You see, because the ‘abuser’ is unable to handle their frustration, they act out in any way necessary. It may not always be outward explosions. Sometimes it’s subtle jabs.
Remember, if you fall in love with a resentful person, you will eventually become the brunt of that resentment and almost certainly feel shut out and diminished in the relationship.
Please be sure to pay attention to the warning signs of domestic violence. Don’t think that YOU CAN HELP CHANGE THEM! A person has to want to change.
Another point is that many abusers are victims of domestic violence themselves. If you are a victim of domestic violence, please don’t believe that a relationship will save you from your past. Don’t believe that just because they don’t hit you, it’s not abuse. It is. Get help for you!
Please call The National Center of Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. Or visit their website thehotline.org.
adapted from 12 Signs to Tell if Your Partner May Turn into An Abuser