5 Tips To Support Systems To Help Victims

5 Tips To Support Systems To Help Victims

Here’s a word or two to support systems who call themselves helping those who are abused or in pain:

Don’t tell people to ‘get over’ their issues.  Show them or tell them HOW to do it.

Don’t persecute people for being sad, distraught, or hurt over their issues.  By so doing, helps toxic people hurt their victims further.  You see, they (the victim) are already hurting by what they are going through from an abusive individual.  How do you think you are helping them by belittling their pain?

Don’t penalize people for stating how they really feel about their issues and situation.  Listen, aren’t you supposed to be a support?  If they can’t tell you; if you reprove them for doing so, how are you helping?  Where can they go to express their frustration?  Needless to say, they can’t do it to the person that they are hurting over.  They don’t listen; and, they are also manipulative.

Stop blaming victims for being victims.  You’re like the person who blames a woman for being raped while excusing the rapist.  And on that note:

Victim blaming. Aren't you so tough!

STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR THE ABUSIVE OR TOXIC INDIVIDUAL.  I or anybody shouldn’t have to explain this.  People who are wounded don’t care about the plight of the person who wounded them.  They are looking for justice, compassion, and freedom from the pain.  They are looking for someone to stand up for them.  While you’re sitting there explaining away the wrongdoer’s actions, you are telling the hurting individual that their pain isn’t as bad or bad enough.  How do you think you are helping?  How do you think they feel?

Listen, toxic/abusive individuals can tell if they have an advocate in you as opposed to a victim. 

They can see that they remain blameless regardless of what they do.  As a result, they push their limits with their victim.  If no one intervenes to stop them or help the victim, they keep going further and further.  They know that you are buying into their victim playing.

Stop it.  Just stop it.  Reexamine who are really helping.

No one person has all of the answers. There's nothing wrong with getting help for someone in need. Let them get help on their own terms.

The strongest thing you can do is reach out for help or help someone get help.

Tisha Jones is a writer and page owner of What They Hardly Warned us About.

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